Hello, fellow moms!
I am new here, and I aim to create a community of moms. While I am writing this, I am somersaulted by my baby. My neck and back pains, and wrist are almost broken. Still, I fed him, then bathed him, then fed him, all the while attending to household chores. I am sitting with half eyes closed and thinking to myself if I ever get to sleep away my tiredness.
I used to think many moms are better than me, they take care of their houses and babies and also run a full-time career. I felt like I was lagging. Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook never help. It just shows us that curated lives of influencers, where there usually is a team that helps them achieve that. I felt inadequate. So here I want to be real and raw.
I want to talk about the pain, the messiness, mom rage, love, overprotection, fatigue, happiness, being selfless and of course, an overwhelmed mental state. There is almost no social life. Suddenly, you are just serving a little human for 24 hours.
One time I saw an Instagram reel (maybe you saw it too), where an employer tells the candidates for an interview about a job which requires 24-hour work, has to skip lunch or breakfast if need arises, sleep when the client sleeps, have to sacrifice sleep many times and also do additional work that too without any pay. For free! The candidates laughed it out, saying it is stupid, who will take this job and that employer replied Billions of people do that. Everyone was shocked. Then he revealed that those people are “moms”.
I was teary-eyed just watching that. No one can feel how much we sacrifice ourselves to fit in this role and how society takes this for granted.
Here I will talk about patriarchy and how it has influenced our decisions. The trends on social media and the books I love, basically everything which a mom could find useful. I won’t be like those boring 5-step how-to guides, and we know a YouTube tutorial is better for that; no mom has time to read those 5 steps. It is usually very generic ones which I hate to write about.
I want to write about my experiences and the things I did, and I would love to hear from you all.
What is the ONE thing you stopped trying to be perfect at this week? Let me know in the comments below!. I will reply to you as my baby naps.
Will talk more,
Emerell